SoulKraft Wellbeing Radio Show 10.07.19

Last night I had a totally new experience. I was a guest on a radio show. I have done radio interviews before but they have never been in a radio studio with the headphones etc on so this was all a bit new and exciting! To listen to the show follow this link

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SoulKraft Wellbeing Radio Show is a weekly show hosted by Lauren on Stirling City Radio. I was put in touch with Lauren via a mutual friend but we were also at the same school. Lauren’s radio show focuses on mental wellbeing and has a sub topic each week focusing in on part of mental wellbeing such as creativity. You can read more about Lauren, her blog and radio show here.

To say I was a bit nervous would be an under statement because I have never been the best with words when speaking about my own health. I can write it and I can speak about the surrounding topics such as asthma research, new asthma medications when giving presentations but the last few times when I have spoken about myself and how my asthma has impacted me I have ended up in tears in front of a whole load of people, so I was hoping I was not going to do that while on the radio. I have also never spoken about my view on mental and physical health. I have written about how a physical health condition has impacted my mental health but never really spoken about it and also not spoken about how I view health as a whole.

It was great to be able to speak to someone who has had such similar views on health but they come from a predominantly mental health condition where my initial diagnosis was a physical which has impacted on my mental health.

Reflecting back and listening to the show has been really cathartic and in a way given me a new lease on life and advocacy. It has made me realise that health is just health wether it is physical or mental. Part of me really feels that all this attention being given to mental health may just be stigmatising it even more now. There is a lot of press given to mental health because it is chronically underfunded but why is it. Mental health conditions just like physical health conditions sometimes cannot be prevented and sometimes can be prevented, all conditions can be treated with pharma input or using other approaches there is no real difference (I get that this is being very generalistic but when you get to the nitty gritty of all conditions they are complex and hard to manage.

I want to try and spend some time promoting the impact that living with a chronic (sorry Lauren) health condition can do to you holistically. I say holistically because that focuses on the whole person not just the one organ or organs that the condition effects.

Thank you again Lauren! If you want to listen to the radio show

 

Looking back at #HealtheVoices19

The past few weeks have been really tough, Im not going to lie but there have been some very dark times and hard times. Although my lungs and breathing have been manageable it has been bad enough to limit what I am doing and I have had to increase my steroids again to get me though. Mentally it has been tough. Getting new diagnosis’s is tough. My last post I spoke about how steroids are the gift that keeps on giving but they are also giving me life so I have to take them.

Social media has been such a good support network for me particularly on days when I just can’t get out and about.

One thing I have noticed is the friends I made while in Dallas are the ones who are always there with comments or free to chat. I cant believe that I only met most of these people for 3 short days but to me I feel like I ave known many of them for ages. I am so thankful for the friendships I have made and just wish I was not the other side of the pond from them as I would desperately love to see them all again. Their support is unwavering. I wish I could give them the same support they give me. I am not sure if they know the impact they have had on me. Every single one of them has their own story to tell, own problems and challenges yet they still find the time to look out for others and wit their advocacy work they are improving the lives of others.

I realised I have not posted many of the photos from Dallas so below are some of the photos from HealtheVoices!!

This is just a small selection of the photos I have from HealtheVoices but they are all part of my tribe. They get me, they know what to say and they accept me for being me and who I am.

Thank you everyone!!

#MentalHealthAwarenessWeek2019 Acceptance

In my first post for #MentalHealthAwarenessWeek2019 I looked at dealing with being in denial. Wether that denial be of your physical health or your mental health, I am sure it is something we have all done. Tried to brush things off and say I’m fine. But what does saying fine really mean. To me now saying “fine” says a lot more that it means. To me when someone says they are fine it means they don’t know how to explain how they feel, or they don’t want to admit how they feel, or they don’t know how they feel. This happened just tonight speaking to a friend whose response to my how are you? was Im fine when clearly they were not.

I think we all just jump to I’m fine because we think it will not lead to anymore questions and we can move on to a different topic. Why do I think this? I used to be that person and still am sometimes. I would think if I said I was fine then I would be left alone to get on with things and could feel rubbish with out anybody pestering me. When I first started seeing a psychologist we spent a session talking about “Im fine” and why we use it. It was interesting to explore it further. It caused me a lot of pain as it brought up thoughts I didnt want to deal with, and made me realise my situation but now I look back and see I needed it otherwise I would still be telling people I am fine when I am falling apart.

Exploring the I’m fine became a lot more. It helped me accept my health. It helped me move out of a denial phase where I wanted to pretend to everyone I was ok. I didnt want to be the weak one who struggled to breathe or could work like everyone else. I didnt want a condition that can be considered by many as “just asthma” to rule my life and dictate it so if I didnt knowledge it to other people then everyone was happy as larry. All this did was hurt me more as no one else was getting more unwell or lonely because of my asthma and my health it was only me I was punishing.

Opening up and being able to explain how you feel is hard. I started off by trying to verbalise it but I found doing word clusters easier. I had 3 sheets of paper and each one contained a word: asthma, physically, and mentally. I also had coloured pens where I then wrote down how each word made me feel right there and then in one colour, in another colour I wrote down how i have felt in the past and then in a third colour I wrote down how I wanted to feel about the words.

This task made me accept my health both physically and mentally. It made me acknowledge that asthma is not just a physical condition but impacts you mentally as well. By treating each part in isolation I was never going to be able to really get to where I want to go. One each sheet of paper I had the same words particularly with where I wanted to be in the future. I had a common goal across everything and this is when I realised that to achieve that goal I need to look at every aspect of my health and how my condition is effecting me.

I found also that by doing this task I accept my health. I was able to see where I was and where I wanted to go. Rather than focusing on the here and now I was able to set goals for the future both short and long term. Goals which are achievable but also including some that are going to push me because you don’t want to make life too easy. Doing this meant I evaluated myself there and then, how I was feeling, what I needed to do to keep me stable or what I needed to do to change the situation I was in if it was a bad day. Accepting that you can have bad days is a big part of this but to accept bad days I found I need to have strategies on how to fix these bad days. It was not about looking for a fix such as a cure but looking at things that can still be done and achieved despite you not feeling well. For me a big part of not feeling well was feeling like I was failing. If I was not well enough to work or when i cut my hours cut down I found myself sitting at home thinking I should be at work just now but am not because of my lungs. Accepting that this is where I was at that point and doing something to change it even though I am not able to change my lungs I can change what my brain is doing. For me that is being involved in research. No matter how unwell I feel I will always be able to be involved in research.

One of the other big things about moving from denial to acceptance is evaluating yourself. You are going to have days where you slip back into the Im fine I don’t want to talk about things from time to time but if you can reflect back on why you felt like that. It might be that it was the people you were around you at the time and you did not want to share your feelings with them. This is ok. Everything has to be done in your own pace. Some people maybe able to reflect on themselves and feel they can shout from the rooftops about their condition and how it makes them feel where others cant tell a sole. Everyone is different and everyone has their own way of dealing with it.

I would be really interested to hear about how others found self acceptance of their health when they had previously been in denial about anything being wrong with them. I am always intrigued as to what skills others utilise to help them.

The above is just my experience. It might not be right for anyone else, but I found this is how I got my head around things and accepting how my asthma is impacting on life and how I felt about my asthma, the impact it has on my physical and mental health too.

One thing I want to get across this week is that a physical health condition is not isolated to just the physical body, and a mental health condition is not just associated with your mental state. They all over lap with each other and to truly get the best management for you everything needs to be looked at not just the condition in isolation.

My HealtheVoices19 experience!

Last night I was catching up on reading some blogs and came across one that was written by one of the other people who attended HealtheVoices (HeV) who opened her blog post with my exact thoughts. She had been drafting and redrafting posts about her experiences of HealtheVoices and not knowing quite how to write it. She came down to the point of just getting it out and putting it down in a post. So this is what I am going to do as well because like her I have been going over how to write my experience and then rewriting it and never being happy or knowing quite how to word it.

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So here goes…

Leaving the UK to go to Dallas was a mix of nerves and excitement. The lead up to the HeV event was so positive and the support from everyone was there right from the start so I was feeling at ease but also felt a little is this really going to be like this once I am there too. A small hiccup at the airport but I was soon at the hotel and getting ready to settle in.

There was no real plans for the Thursday night. There was dinner but it was a buffet and you could just go down and eat when you wanted. I am never very good at these things and went downstairs several times with the intention of going in to the dinner room but I kept bottling it so would head back up to my room. I was too nervous, and tired because I was still on UK time and had been up for about 24 hours at this point, but I needed to get over jet lag so I could enjoy the conference without crashing, so I forced myself to go in and join a table. I am so glad I did go down. The slight awkwardness of plating my food and all the time thinking which table should I ask to sit at, who won’t mind if I join them, there was 101 things flying through my head but actually some of those who I had my first meal with in Dallas are also the ones I had my last lunch with as well. I did have that bit of security with me at dinner though- I had my name badge/lable/neck thing so anyone I met knew my name, knew I was speaking but also knew that it was my first time attending the conference.

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When I have attended conferences in the past I have felt at ease, and with each conference I attend and speak at I feel more confident but this was different. When I have spoken at conferences I have been there and what I am speaking about is my specialist interest and my experience, I tended to be the patient giving my opinion of essentially being an expert patient. This was a different ball game. Everyone there was like me, we are all experts at living with our own conditions and doing our own thing to raise the profile and difficulties we face trying to live a functional life.

I have never really thought of the work I do with asthma as advocacy, I actually didn’t like the word advocacy but attending HeV I came away feeling that maybe it was and I was an asthma advocate. People often ask me what drives me to do what I do, how do I come up with content, ideas etc. I never really know how to answer because I have never thought about why I do these things. I just do it because I hope that by sharing my story maybe people or even just one person might be able to take something from it and their experience will be a bit easier.

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It sounds cliche but after my initial nerves everyone was so welcoming at the meeting. Wether you were a first timer or had been at all the HeV meetings in the past everyone was on the same level- we were all there for one reason. Everyone there is motivated to help make a change. There was a variety of people who have had a condition all their life, then some with conditions that vary, go into remission or are cured from it but through their experience they are sharing knowledge gained, experiences which were good or bad.

I still really am struggling to put into words all my emotions from the meeting but I think the photos speak for themselves.

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So where do I go from here??

I have a few projects that I would like to pursue the most pressing one is to try and get rid of all the stock images media outlets are using which are subconsciously promoting poor inhaler technique. Almost every day I see a photo being used on a media article which shows a child or adult using a MDI (metered dose inhaler) with no spacer and even though there is no spacer the technique is not good either. In the UK there is an inherent problem with asthma management and self management resulting in high death levels from asthma attacks which can be prevented. One of these preventions is correct inhaler technique.

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Pharmaceutically Enhanced!

I read an article recently which challenged my thoughts on modern medicine and how I have become totally reliant on pharmaceutical products. I am so thankful for all the developments in medicine and where medication is now.

Everyday I take a concoction of medication and far too many for someone in their late twenties almost 30. I take a range of bronchodilators, inhaled corticosteroids, anti leukotriene receptors, oral steroids, antihistamines, xanthines, proton pump inhibitors, anti emetics, bone protection, painkillers, muscle relaxants, antidepressants and hormones. These all range from inhalers, nebulisers, nasal sprays, tablets, injections. This is just on a regular basis but add in emergency treatment of IM and IVs as well. I wonder what has happened to me since it was just 2 inhalers- a preventer and reliever. I never even knew about all these there medications and it has only been recently I have really understood what they all do, how they help me and what benefits I get from them.

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I am constantly working with my team to work out ways of reducing the numbers of medications and that I am only taking what I need to take and what actually does something. There are times when I just wonder why I take everything everyday when I can sometimes find I get no benefit at all, but on the good days I can really see how they help. I can go from gasping for breath to be able to breathe freely with the help of my medication regime and all the different things.

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As great as this all is I can’t help but think where would I be if we did not have these great advances in medication. If we were all still relying on asthma cigarettes, powders or the later developed atomiser and then pocket atomiser- something about the size of a portable nebuliser rather than a pocket inhaler. Im not sure I or many others would be able to do half of what I do without the medications we now have. Im pretty sure I would be in quite a bad way and stuck indoors all the time. It is a thought that doesn’t bare thinking about.

So many of us, myself included complain constantly about the amount of medication they take and the side effects. My list of medication is half medication for my asthma and half to treat the side effects of the medication I take for my asthma mainly the prednisilone. Reflecting now as much as I hate my medication I am hugely indebted to the researchers and pharmacy companies who develop these new medications for all different diseases. Selfishly I want them to focus on developing medication to help conditions like asthma which don’t get the funding as I desperately want to have the life I used to even though I am ever so grateful for the life I have now it would just be great to turn back time to the good old days!

I guess the article I read just highlighted to me how fortunate I am and we are that we are here in the modern world compared to time before.

For now just need to keep on….

Shaking, Rattling and Rolling!!!